September 11, 2001 was, without a doubt, the worst day of my
life. Not only did I happen to see the first plane hit...then the second...then
find out we were under attack; not only did I feel personally attacked; not
only did I feel more afraid and helpless than I ever have before or since; but
there was a bomb threat that day, at the Federal Building directly across the
side street from my daughter’s daycare. I was unable to locate my 4-year-old daughter for
6 hours. When I was finally able to find and pick her up, I found out that the
daycare staff had walked the children DOWN THE STREET ACROSS FROM THE POTENTIAL
BOMB.
Despite all the fear and emotional pain I experienced that
day, I was lucky. I was able to hold my children. I was able to go to sleep
that night knowing they were safe and unhurt. I think of all the parents,
grandparents, siblings, cousins, children, friends, lovers who lost their loved
ones that day, and I realize just how truly lucky I am that I was able to hold
my children. I have not had to wonder or know that they died instantly. Or that
they suffered any amount of pain before dying hours, days, months, or even
years afterward. I have been able to watch my children grow up and become who
they are.
Although I felt helpless and more fearful because I was not
able to go to NY and help, I have not had to suffer the aftermath of those
first responders who gave their own lives. Who did everything they could, but
felt they could/should have done more, helped more, maybe saved just one more
person. Those responders who were forever shattered by the events that they
were working at. There is nothing I or anyone else can say that would not
minimize the magnitude of mental/emotional trauma these police officers,
firefighters, EMS personnel, and other responders have gone through.
I am truly lucky that, although I felt attacked, although I
felt fear and helplessness and was forever affected by that day, I was able to
be at home with my children that night. I wish with all my heart that I had
been in NY so I could have helped, but I am so grateful that I was able to be
with my children. I am more grateful than I can say for all of those people who
responded to the Twin Towers, the Pentagon, and the plane crash; for the
bravery of the passengers on United flight 93 that day.